Have you ever reached a point where the life you knew no longer seems to fit, but you have absolutely no idea what comes next? You may feel lost, stuck or as though nothing in your life makes sense anymore. Emotionally, mentally, physically, psychologically and spiritually, you can find yourself in a strange in-between place — no longer who you were, but not yet knowing who you are becoming.
In This Article
Feeling Lost | The In-Between | The Cocoon | Trust | Spiritual Growth | Becoming Who You Are
A Lesson in TRUST
When You Feel Lost
This weekend I learnt a little more about the Spiritual Value of TRUST. Sometimes feeling lost doesn’t mean that something has gone wrong. Sometimes we are simply in that strange space between the life we knew and the life we are becoming. We may not be able to see what comes next because, for a while, perhaps we’re not meant to.
Depression is a place no one can understand unless you have been there.
And even if you have been there, our journeys are all different.
Our lessons are all different.
It’s a place where you have to simply be… alone by yourself…
There are parts of this journey that only YOU can move through…but that doesn’t mean you have to go through it alone.
After all…it is YOUR time of growth and healing!
Time helps…
So does TRUST!
Depression is like being in the “Mean Time”. The Time between who you “were” and who you are “becoming”.
The In-Between
This is the part of the journey that can be so difficult to understand. You know that something has changed. The person you were, the life you were living, or the way you once saw the world may no longer fit. But you can’t yet see what is replacing it.
Emotionally, mentally, physically, psychologically and spiritually, you can feel caught somewhere in between.
And because we can’t see anything happening, we can assume that nothing is happening.
But perhaps this is exactly where some of our deepest change begins.
This weekend I very nearly lost someone very special to me….
That person was alone and didn’t want any company or help at that point in her life…
I understand now that I couldn’t take this journey away from her or do the inner work for her. I could love her, stay close, reach out and support her, but there were still parts of her healing and Spiritual growth that only she could move through, potentially as part of her agreed Soul Contract.
But I’d forgotten that…
I wanted to be there to help, to hold that person’s hand…
I am a collector of “Precious Things” and this person’s tears were precious to me and I wanted to collect them..!
But ultimately…there are parts of another person’s Soul journey that we cannot live for them. We can love them, support them and walk beside them, but we cannot do their healing for them.
This person gave those that know them … a Gift this weekend!
The Cocoon
The cocoon can feel like a place where nothing is happening, but that isn’t true at all.
The caterpillar does not go into the cocoon and simply wait to become a butterfly. Inside, an enormous transformation is taking place.
Perhaps we are a little like that too.
When we feel lost, stuck, exhausted or unsure of who we are becoming, it may not mean that our journey has stopped.
The cocoon is not where the journey ends. The cocoon is where the transformation happens.
Whilst that person is recovering and starting to climb into their new skin, (much like the Caterpillar morphing into a beautiful Butterfly!) a transition is happening with guidance from the Universe, into the new person they are and ultimately were always going to be… I realise that this person gave us a Gift …. That Gift is the opportunity for all of us to really look at ourselves honestly and what we want and don’t want in our lives, to look at what is and what is not working for us in our lives and who is a positive influence and who is a negative influence on us, before we get to a point where none of those things matter anymore.
This person has given those of us that know them, a Wake Up Call.
Today we open their Gift and reflect on what their experience means to us.
What can we learn? What does the Universe want us to know and grow from?
Trust
This weekend, I have again been shown this message very loud and clear ………
“DON’T FIGHT THE UNIVERSE!”
Because that’s when we get into trouble. The Universe does have a bigger plan for you and for I!
We get into trouble when we don’t TRUST!
The Soul knows WAY more than the mind. Our human mind naturally tries to understand and explain everything that happens in our lives, but there are some things that simply don’t make sense to us at the time. For me, that’s where the Soul comes in. The mind wants answers NOW, while the Soul seems to understand a much bigger picture that we may only recognise later.
…And that’s where TRUST comes into it….
From a spiritual perspective, deep depression can sometimes feel like a place where the mind is exhausted and needs to rest, while the Soul quietly asks us to stop, listen and simply BE.
Please remember that I work on a Soul level NOT a mind level. There are Specialists that do a wonderful job with your Mind to help you get through these times.
It’s the Soul I work with and, from my spiritual perspective, times like these can sometimes show us that something in our lives is no longer working the way it once did. Perhaps there is something our Soul is asking us to stop, notice, change or simply learn to TRUST.
We’ve been Human DOings!
We need to be Human BEings !
We need to just BE!
We need to just TRUST!
Spiritual Growth
Valuable Spiritual Lessons and growth often come through the experiences life brings us. Sometimes those lessons involve pain…a lot of pain. And sometimes it is through that pain that we finally stop, look more deeply at what is happening, and understand what the experience may be trying to teach us.
So, what do Spiritual Lessons look like I hear you ask, well, they may involve learning;
- Forgiveness ! This doesn’t condone what the other person has done to you… it just frees you from the hold they have over you. You don’t have to understand why they did what they did. I’d like to change “Forgiveness” to “Freegiveness!”
- Standing on our own two feet…everyone has their own two feet and their own opinions and personalities and Spiritual journey’s. Walk on the beach and make your OWN footsteps in the sand….then look at the beautiful impression you have made on the earth…No footsteps are the same. We are ALL Unique. Appreciate the beauty in others and they will automatically be attracted to yours!
- Speaking our truth, even when it means others may not like it…It’s in the delivery of our truth that we need to be cautious. Assertive rather than aggressive wins every time. Be authentic.
- Saying Yes when we mean Yes and not when we are feeling No!
- After all, not everyone is like us or thinks the way we do.. other people are right too! (They also have different footprints!)
- Accept that some things you can change and some things you can’t. Leave the rest to the Universe!
- We are given up to 100 years to live our lives and learn our lessons. Special things happen to us when the time is right. If we are waiting for something Special to happen, it won’t, not till the Universe is ready to delivery and then it’s always the RIGHT time! Be patient, your time WILL come and whilst you are waiting, stop waiting and just get on with living!
- Use your Insight and Higher Self to help you understand what the mind can’t. This may bring you back to the lesson of Trust like me!
- Unconditional Love (many of us have conditions on our love)
- Expectations (this is a HUGE one for many). Many of us have Expectations on other people that we’ve never told them about. Then we get disappointed when they don’t deliver! How could they if they didn’t even know about our expectations in the first place! Communication is the key.
- Sincerity
- Authenticity or being our Real Self.
- Faith
- Trust
- Kindness ~ that is …to ourselves not others, because we are already very good at that!
- Peace
- Stillness
- Stop worrying about what other’s think…they’re not even thinking about you anyway
As they’re too involved in thinking about themselves! Just like you don’t spend time thinking about others because you too are thinking about Yourself! Think about that for a minute!
- Friendship
- Humility
- Looking at life from another person’s point of view. This leads to Understanding.
Becoming Who You Are
Perhaps this is what the in-between is really about.
For a while, we may feel as though we have lost ourselves completely. We can’t go back to who we were, but we can’t yet see who we are becoming either.
That doesn’t mean nothing is happening.
Just like the caterpillar inside the cocoon, some of our greatest changes can be taking place quietly, out of sight.
And then, little by little, we begin to emerge.
Not as the person we were before, but as someone who understands themselves, their life and their Soul in a different way.
Maybe we were never really lost.
Maybe we were simply becoming.
**Note to Reader:
If you or someone you know is suffering from depression, please speak with your General Practitioner or a qualified mental health professional. Organisations such as Lifeline and Beyond Blue can also provide support. My work and the thoughts shared in this article come from a spiritual perspective and are not a substitute for professional mental health care.
Unfortunately, there are no Clinics for the symptoms of a “Sad Soul”. This is where I and other Gifted Psychics can offer spiritual support alongside appropriate professional care. I work on a Soul level and for me, this is where life can begin to make sense in a different way.
Continue Your Spiritual Journey
If you’re feeling as though your life is changing and you’re trying to understand why, you may also find my article What Is a Spiritual Awakening? Understanding Old Souls and Your Spiritual Journey helpful.
If you’re learning to trust your own inner guidance, you may also like Marion’s Guide to Automatic Writing.
If you’d like to explore these ideas more deeply, you may also enjoy my book Wired Not Weird, written to help make sense of spirituality in everyday life.
If you feel you would benefit from some personal guidance and clarity about what you’re experiencing, you can also explore my Psychic and Spiritual Readings.
If you would prefer to write everything down in your own time, you can also choose an Email Psychic and/or Spiritual Reading.
Explore more about Soul growth, spiritual awakening and everyday spiritual awareness in my Practical Spirituality cornerstone article.
